A lady posted this question on the only online forum that I visit. Very good question, I have to say.

The first answer on the thread makes sense. I should know:

We're hard-wired that way. We try and avoid the confrontation (the big talk) where the risk of saying unkind words is high. We process the hurt internally hoping it will go away in a matter of hours or days. I shouldn't really worry about it — usually, we're also the first one to initiate the reconciliation after we're done brooding.

But that isn't usually the case. Another member posted a proverb:

All talk, all mistake

Less talk, less mistake

No talk, no mistake!

Kind of simplistic, really. But if you want a quick answer to the question, that would work. But the thing is, and let's be honest...

It could be that he's thinking about:

Why the Lakers had such a bad offseason (or the Celtics or the Heat - you HAVE to know which one)

Whether to wait for the iPad 3 or buy the 2 now

Whether Ferrari can produce a good car for the next season

What his boss said yesterday

When the barkada will get together

How that chick in the other department is getting hotter

I'm trying to be helpful here. It's not always about you. He might have started thinking about you, but he'll have likely moved to other thoughts. We're not as focused as you are. Just be patient and try to reengage later.

Sad but true.

You know what, ladies, just settle with this one.

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